Family Therapy Services

Couples Therapy

I love to work with couples! There is always a challenge when two people get together to merge their lives. Each couple brings such diversity that needs to be sorted out and understood on their path toward intimacy. Everyone wants to be “happy”, and that requires (in most cases) a lot of work, thought, and action. I believe that life is meant to be shared and a relationship is the best way to learn about yourself and grow. The most important aspect of this process is the ability to be honest with yourself. Awareness of your feelings and actions contribute to your ability to deal with the challenges that face you.

Couples go through stages in their relationships just as we go through developmental stages growing up. My challenge is to help you learn where you are in this process and help you get to where you want to go. Change is inevitable in life whether you court it or not. It is always helpful to be able to confront change and deal with it rather than try to control the situation. Relationships can rise to this challenge and people can be the best they can be in attaining individuation and at the same time find meaning in living a shared life with someone. If I can help you with some of these issues or perhaps some that are concerning you as a couple that I haven’t listed here, contact me. Some of these challenges that I work with are as follows:

Pre-marital counseling. If everyone did this before marriage, we’d probably have less divorce. Learning to listen and understand your partner from the get-go is helpful in creating your own marriage!

Relationships problems…..are normal. Everyone has problems in their relationships. There are no perfect marriages, but negotiating differences, creating understanding and a lasting bond takes work.

  • Improving communication
  • Learning to establish a more loving and compassionate relationship
  • Learning to break up old ways of being that lead to frustrating patterns of fighting and/or arguing
  • Dealing with an affair or recovering from one
  • Separation and/or Divorce
  • Parenting, co-parenting, step-parenting

Making transitions and adjustments is difficult. As stated above, change is inevitable. Some adjustments are normal,(i.e. going to school for the first time, getting married, having a baby, getting old)and some are forced upon you (i.e. an accident that leaves you disabled, sudden death or chronic illness of a loved one, moving, losing a job).

  • Losing a loved one
  • Getting let go from your job
  • Getting married or having a new little one enter your life
  • Moving
  • Job Stress or career change

Gay and Lesbian Issues. People are people, but some have a harder row to hoe! Dealing with the issues of coming out, telling parents, acceptance in society, sex or friends, creating a community of support.

Couples therapy Walnut Creek and Oakland

Therapy Services
Walnut Creek Office
1700 Ygnacio Valley Road
Suite 200
Walnut Creek, CA
94598
Tel: (925) 945-2486
Fax: (925) 935-4777
Oakland Office
4283 Piedmont Avenue
Suite A-3
Oakland, CA
94611
Tel: (925) 945-2486
Fax: (925) 935-4777
 
 
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